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There is no fixed procedure, injuries and the presence of other offences (drink, drugs, twoc etc) would 'frustrate' any set procedure, and it depends on personalities, workload, locality of drivers, effect of an accident on the driver and the wishes of the driver.

It's often taken at the time through convenience, more than anything else. It gets a job boxed off at the time. It also gets a version on the record before it's been tainted by conversations down t'pub. It could be seen as unfair on the interviewee, although we wouldn't normally conduct the interview if they wanted to leave it for a few days. The other matter for us to consider is that an interview conducted at the time could potentially be evidentially compromised by future allegations that it was taken while the driver wasn't thinking properly because of the stress of the incident. We would normally obtain an early first account (under caution) from a driver at a fatal collision, generally only 4 specific questions without challenge. There are strengths and weaknesses to this but it is deemed an important investigative strategy.

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Fixed ideas are like cramp, for instance in the foot, yet the best remedy is to step on them.

Ian

hello again and thanks for replies. after my insurance said about the air bags i went online and investigated that claim, and it appears very unlikely that pedestrian would make an airbag deploy, wander if he said it to make me feel better!! anyway have started to cut ties gently with the mum as i do feel that is actually making me worse. but thanks again for all your replies, i am sure in time this will go to the back of my mind and only be reminded of it at random times. i am glad the lad is ok and is healing well, i just dont thikn his mum will ever let it go!

Me neither Amy.

Call me suspicious or paranoid if you wish, but maybe one of this womans reasons for is staying in contact is to see if she can get you to say something self-incriminating.

The Police would let her know if any proceedings were to be taken against "another party" (that's you) and the lad is on the mend, so it sounds like you are making a good move here.

Good luck with the car hunting.

I think you have nothing to reproach yourself over Amy, your conscience should be clear. Many other drivers who don't drive to the conditions would have killed him.

Without wishing to trivialise the matter, I would beat up on myself if I had run into an animal, because it feels pain and neither me nor you would want to cause pain or suffering.

But we live in a big enough blame culture without foisting it upon ourselves when we are not at fault!

I agree you should distance yourself from the mother. She may read into it that you have no compunction but that's her problem to be frank; she should look in the mirror and ask if she has anything to reproach herself with instead of putting you on a guilt trip.

Biological problems aside, anyone can have child but it takes something special to be a mother or father! In the animal kingdom, the parents pass their wisdom onto the offspring instead of just blaming the State or anyone else except themselves!

By the time my daughter was four or five she was showing me how to cross a road properly, I taught her!!! Before that her hand was super-glued to mine or she was under supervision. Where is that today???

Oh!!!, but they will drive the kids to school every day and back because the world is replete with pedophiles and perverts!


You sound like a lovely, kind and caring person who wouldn't harm a fly Amy. Live your life and don't give it free rent in your head anymore; life is too short and for what it's worth coming from a complete stranger reading your post you didn't do anything wrong...

Kind regards and

Tony

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The views expressed in this post are personal opinions and do not necessarily represent the views of Safe Speed.
You will be branded a threat to society by going over a speed limit where it is safe to do so, and suffer the consequences of your actions in a way criminals do not, more so than someone who is a real threat to our society.

I agree that you should be very careful about talking to the mother - especially if she's making out to be your "friend". Her behaviour (waiting for the police to close the file) doesn't match up with her words (telling you that she believes you). She may be taking advantage of your guilt and trusting nature to get evidence to launch an injury claim against you.

Anyway - what the hell was she doing allowing a 9 year old who clearly didn't have road sense to play in a 40 zone?

It is always good to learn from our experiences, analysing and learning what the causes were so that we have learnt as much as possible from that episode. After this point it is necessary to move on and I agree that it is unwise to form a relationship with her.

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